Sunday, May 29, 2011



“When the mind longs to follow but the memory erases 
And the lips form the words but the heart no longer sings”  *

When we look at you we wonder
Just where you are today ?
We want to stay and talk with you
But don’t know what to say.
We remember oh so much of you,
Of the things you said and did.
The love and laughter you shared,
The tears you often hid.

You were different people to all of us
Wife and Mother to some.
Friend and cheery neighbour,
But now what have you become?
A shadow of your former self,
An empty shell  ~ still cherished
But for you it is all so different ~
All sense and memory perished!

An increased forgetfulness,
Something said which is not quite right
A constant repeating of something
We have heard seven times tonight.
It’s not the physical slowing
That causes us such pain
It’s the misting of the eyes
When memory fails again.

It bothers us so very much
When you forget to shower,
That you cannot even remember
Which has been your favourite flower.
Odd socks and shoes
And three dresses on in the morning !
A blank and distant look
Which gives to us a warning.

For us the saddest thing of all
Is that you barely know
How very much we love you
And we wonder why it’s so.
You were kind and loving
And generous to your core.
It brings to us great comfort
To open memory’s door.

We look into your clouded eyes
And your confused expression see,
It breaks our hearts to see you thus –
But we have memory.
We recall your smile, your touch
The days when life was grand.
We love you and we remember
And accept the way it is planned.

© Linda J. Vaughan

* Words by Buddy Sheffield


Tiili said...

Al is a painful thing to watch, heartbreaking and just too hard some times. This is a lovely, true muse from the heart of someone who has witnessed it first hand.

Aletha said...

Oh so true it is so hard to watch a love one pass on to the other side